Do you feel disconnected or lonely even though you’re in a relationship?
Do you feel like you and your partner never talk anymore?
Does your relationship seem like a chain of one argument after another?
Are you struggling after an affair?
Are you in a transition after your children have left home and feel like you don’t really recognize each other?
Have you experienced a family loss and want to learn how to help each other with the pain instead of being pulled apart?
Do you want to work more effectively together in parenting your children?
Do you have divorce concerns you’d like to work on together?
We work with couples when problems in relationships surface or when couples want to work together to strengthen their connection.
I’m afraid talking about these things is just going to make it worse.
Our experience tells us this is generally not so. It is sometimes hard to talk about issues that have been lurking below the surface. Our experienced couples therapists will work with you to facilitate and pace the discussions to help you move toward connection rather than move further apart. In the long run, it is even harder to have these issues go unaddressed.
My partner refuses to come.
You have a few different options. Sometimes it is helpful for folks to know that they are not signing up to be blamed or judged and they will not need to be going to counseling forever. Perhaps your partner will agree to one trial session. Once people experience what counseling is really like, they feel more comfortable. You also have the option of coming yourself to talk about your relationship concerns and what you might be able to do to improve your part of the relationship.
We don’t need counseling. We can do this ourselves.
That may well be true. There are a lot of things you can do independently that will improve your relationship. Sometimes working with an experienced therapist will help point you in the right direction so you can make those changes more efficiently and effectively.